Couples Counseling
“ Marriage isn’t something you find, it’s something you make, and you have to keep on making it. ”
– Unknown
Are You Feeling Distant Or Disconnected From Your Partner?
Do you constantly fight with your significant other and remain unable to move past or resolve the issues in any sort of healthy way? Have you noticed any other negative patterns within your relationship, such as:
- Coldness or lack of affection?
- Isolation or poor communication?
- Lack of physical or emotional intimacy?
Maybe the two of you have recently navigated grief, loss, trauma, problems with your kids, or professional, financial, or health challenges. Perhaps you started off as lovers and best friends but over time have come to see each other more as business partners or support personnel in your own home or marriage. Although you still love each other, maybe you just don’t feel so madly in love anymore. As a result, you may be considering couples counseling.
Difficulties With Communication And Connection Can Hurt Your Romantic Relationship
You may find yourself arguing endlessly with your partner without either of you actually communicating or hearing each other, or you may find one or both of you completely shutting down or withdrawing from the dynamic. You may notice that your relationship is difficult when you don’t see each other but improves when you spend quality time together. Or you may notice just the opposite: that more time spent together means more conflict and negativity.
We have some good news for both of you, though: your relationship isn’t cursed, it’s not broken beyond repair, and you don’t need to settle—you might just need to start watering the grass here a bit more. Couples therapy with Wild Ethos Counseling can help you rekindle your connection together so that you can build toward the best version of your relationship.
Most Couples Hit Tough Spots At Some Point In Their Relationship
Although it’s easy to imagine and idealize others as having ideal or even perfect relationships, any partnership goes through its ups and downs over time. And yet, while differences between couples are common, not all couples seek out counseling support for their relationship or their marriage, despite the generally positive impacts that therapy can have.
Many couples try to work through relationship challenges alone, thinking that therapy is only for those on the brink of divorce. Yet the more that they rely on their own strengths, the more likely they are to keep repeating old patterns and falling into the same old arguments again and again. This is why it’s so important to be proactive and get support. In fact, according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), “[a]fter receiving treatment, almost 90 [percent] of clients report an improvement in their emotional health, and nearly two-thirds report an improvement in their overall physical health (1).
Relationships Often Take A Backseat To Work And Other Obligations
Unfortunately, society tends to prioritize work, money, and various other commitments over meaningful relationships. And often a relationship can come to be defined by those same metrics and not the relationship itself. Many couples find that, although they may have outwardly succeeded in many of their goals, they have fallen out of touch with each other along the way.
Thanks to couples therapy with Wild Ethos Counseling, though, you can completely renew the focus on yourselves and each other. We believe that your relationship with your partner is one of the most meaningful ones in your life, and we can help you start giving it the care and attention that it deserves.
Couples Therapy Can Help You Reclaim Your Love Story Together
When you and your partner have been unable to break out of familiar patterns for a while, it can be easy to lose complete faith in the relationship—in short, to lose your love story. But a couples counselor can help you learn valuable skills to improve your dynamic, as well as act as an advocate for you and your relationship.
You will work on communication skills while also getting to the root of the underlying issues that the two of you have been struggling with. By working with a couples therapist who is truly on your team, you can make real progress in your relationship and build a better future together.
What You Can Expect From Couples Therapy Sessions
Before beginning therapy sessions, you will both have the chance to connect with your couples counselor in order to bring them up to speed on your relationship history and some of the issues you have been experiencing. From there, you will be able to understand and articulate your needs and establish your goals for therapy.
During your therapy sessions, you will build an understanding of the root causes of your problems, while learning practical ways to break old patterns by better communicating and seeing each other’s points of view.
A Unique Approach To Couples Therapy
Your couples therapist will incorporate multiple modalities to help you improve your relationship, including:
- Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) – When used in the context of couples counseling, IFS identifies and addresses how the different parts of our personalities impact our relationships.
- Bowenian Family Therapy (BFT) – Rooted in IFS, Bowenian Family Therapy seeks to resolve interpersonal conflict within family units and between couples.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – CBT works to reframe negative ways of thinking and feeling, allowing couples to see their relationship in a more positive and empowering light.
Additionally, you will work on skills such as differentiation, turning towards each other, applying needed breaks to heated discussions, finding new ways to serve each other, and increasing affirmations without making them acknowledgments transactional.
Remember: even in another relationship, you would still be the same you. So why not work on yourself to become the best version of yourself for both you and for your partner? When your partner is simultaneously doing the same work on themselves, you can make real progress together in more ways than you can imagine.
You May Still Have Some Questions About Couples Counseling…
I’m concerned about the cost of therapy.
The cost of therapy is significantly cheaper than the loss of one of the most meaningful and important relationships in your life. And although I cannot promise results, I do guarantee that if you invest yourself in the process of couples therapy and the relationship outcome is not what you wanted, you will still have the experience of knowing that you did everything you could.
I’m concerned that I’ll become reliant on therapy.
I look forward to you and your partner finding repeatable and sound ways of meeting each other’s needs, communicating, navigating hardship, and doing this all without me. The overall purpose of our time together is to set you both up to be the best versions of yourselves for this relationship.
I’m concerned that my therapist will take sides against me.
As a couples therapist, the most important person in the room is the relationship itself. You have both signaled to me that you want to save this relationship, so I am going to be its advocate. The only side that I will actively take is for the health of your relationship.
You Can Both Build Toward The Relationship You’ve Always Wanted
If you and your partner are looking to better understand and love each other moving forward, couples therapy with Wild Ethos Counseling can help you reclaim and rewrite your love story together.
Please call us at 931-539-0373 or utilize our contact page to set up a complimentary, 15-minute phone consultation session to restart your journey together.
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